Understanding Dependency and Personality Disorders: A Therapist's Insight

In recent sessions, we have explored the deep-rooted issues of dependency that can lead to various personality disorders, particularly in the context of societal pressures. One common theme is the presence of a personality style known as "Mahatlabi," which manifests itself through excessive need for approval and validation from others.

The Mahatlabi Personality: An Overview

The Mahatlabi personality type often stems from a strong dependency on the approval of family and friends. This dependency can become so pronounced that individuals feel the constant need to please everyone around them. They may prioritize the happiness of others over their own well-being, leading to a compromised sense of self.

Dependency in Iranian Society

In many Iranian communities, this dependency is particularly pronounced. The cultural emphasis on familial approval and social harmony can create an environment where individuals feel pressured to embody the role of the "pleaser." The desire for approval from family members, such as siblings and parents, can overshadow personal needs and aspirations.

The Consequences of Constant Approval Seeking

When individuals are caught in the cycle of needing to satisfy everyone, their self-identity can become fragmented. They may feel lost and struggle to define their own beliefs, desires, and goals. This lack of self-awareness often leads to a feeling of emptiness and can contribute to mental health issues, including anxiety and depression.

Breaking Free from the Mahatlabi Cycle

Therapists encourage individuals dealing with these challenges to embark on a journey of self-discovery. Learning to establish boundaries, practicing self-acceptance, and prioritizing one's own needs are vital steps toward breaking the cycle of dependency. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore these issues and develop healthier relationships with oneself and others.

Conclusion

Understanding the dynamics of dependency and striving for personal authenticity is crucial for mental well-being. Those who recognize traits of the Mahatlabi personality in themselves can benefit immensely from therapy and self-exploration. Embracing individuality and fostering a sense of self-worth can lead to more fulfilling relationships and a richer life experience.

For anyone interested in personal growth and understanding the impact of dependency on mental health, reaching out for professional help can be the first step towards healing.